Here is some quotations, that I find interesting. Hope you will like it.
One thing I always pride myself on is being easy to work with. Myfavorite saying to a client is, "We'll make it work."
Michael Blaine
Stage Hypnotist
Air is water with holes in it
Any two philosophers can tell each other all they know in two hours.
-- Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr.
Early in my career, I found out that one of the words that should never be
used on stage, is the word "TRY", unless you really want the subject
to fail at something. I still hear a lot of stage hypnotists who use this word
many times a night.
When you say to a subject "Come up here and TRY to get hypnotized,"
you pre-condition the subject to fail at getting hypnotized. The word TRY
renders failure. For example, when you tell a friend, "I'll try to be
there," what is the likelihood of you showing up? Not very likely, is it?
Whereas if you tell your friend "I will do my best to be there," you
are very likely going to make it. Do you notice the difference?
The word "TRY" puts doubt in your subject's mind and actually sends
them the message that they are likely to fail. My guess is that when a hypnotist
is using the word "TRY" a lot, this is an indication that THEY are not
confident in their ability or that they have doubts as to whether the suggestion
will work.
However, if you really WANT your volunteer to fail at something, use the word
"TRY". Let me give you an example: On stage, when I give my induction,
I say to the volunteers: "And as you sit there... think of your hands...
and as you do... they become like lead weights... So heavy that the harder you
TRY to lift them... the heavier they get." Now, if I had said that they
can't lift the hands, they would have felt challenged to prove me wrong. By
emphasizing the word "TRY," I am indirectly and powerfully suggesting
that they will fail at lifting their hands.
If you want them to fail, use TRY. If not, leave it at home and speak with
confidence.
Krisztina Hall
Stage Hypnotist
Here's a process I call the "space invader" technique. Sounds ominous, doesn't it? Well, I usually find a way to get a laugh about it when I say it in person... so imagine me laughing when I say "the space invader technique!" And its principally about invading someone's personal space in a VERY nonchalant nonthreatening way, for a very short period of time, to test out the waters, making sure to withdraw out of that space, and test for comfort. If there are signs of a little uncertainty when you're in that person's space, that's fine. Uncertainty is good -- you can work with that one! If they're clearly uncomfortable, either they're really sensitive about their space, or, you went too far or stayed there too long for "testing the waters!"
On Flirting!
Jonathan Altfeld
One thing led to another and as I learned that they worked together on a
software development team, I began to get a sense of each of their
personalities. I focused on one thing at a time, just enjoying the conversation.
It was actually difficult, at times, to think about tracking certain things,
because the rapport was so real, and the conversations so interesting, there
were moments I was lost in the fun of it all! Cool, huh? But I did stay
reasonably focused on what I was learning!
I found that there were areas of less rapport (which was hard to notice when
there was real rapport there), amongst combinations of major rapport. So I took
the pairs of people that weren't in rapport, paced both of them together, and
then led them incrementally to be in closer rapport.
I also did a number of other things but this will suffice to keep the 1st
post reasonably sized! ;) Remember that I only had about an hour to play with
improving their communication!
Jonathan Altfeld
If your world isn't moving a hundred times faster than your client, then you're not going to see the other person's patterns. You won't have the time to observe them or replay their behavior to detect their patterns.
"Bandler Unplugged"
The one thing I'd like to tell people is that God's work isn't done, yet. This could not be the peak perfection of His work. The evolution isn't over. We are the experience that the universe is having.
"Bandler Unplugged"
As I usually tell people in my volunteer training seminars, you can bring a horse to water, but really, if it wants to die of thirst, it's a choice.
Stuart Tan
My daughter pointed to the girl who was single but pregnant.
The term but here indicates a particular social attitude too, that it is not
'right' to be single and pregnant. This social attitude is implicitly assumed
and probably believed by the speaker.
Stuart Tan
Some trainers have reportedly created anchors on one side of the body (i.e. on the knuckles on one hand). Our position is that they should be contralateral (i.e. one anchor on the left knuckle, the other on the right knuckle). This is in line with brain theory of left-right hemispheric dominance (further implications if seen in the light of eye-movements). Also, this is intuitively more appealing because mirror images of the self tend to have opposite poles.
Stuart Tan
For example, in commando training when soldiers are taught to neutralize sentries they are taught to never look directly at the sentry when they are stalking him. They are taught, instead, to use their peripheral vision until they actually attack. The reason for this is that humans (all animals) can "feel" when they are being stared at.
Extending Ch'i
by Tom A. Heaney
"gee, I wonder how exquisitely talented I can become?
I want you to commit to making a change for yourself, commit to your goals
and commit to asking yourself a new set of questions. By doing this, you will be
able to succeed in your goals beyond your wildest expectations.
Some Sample Questions
How come I am so lucky?
Why am I so wonderful?
What new wonderful things will I discover?
How can I become thinner and enjoy the process?
I wonder in how many ways I can become better and better?
I wonder how quickly I can achieve my ideal weight?
Which sensation in my body feels the very best right now?
How quickly will I begin to learn these new skills?
How naturally and easily will I begin to pay attention to pleasant feelings?
How soon will I begin to notice with delight how happy I can become?
Using Questions With Others To Be More Persuasive
Would you like to order your dessert now or when you have your coffee?
Is this cash or charge?
When customers are asked "would you like a large or small coke?"
most take a small. However when asked, "would you like a large one?"
most take a large.
Do you realize how excited it is going to be when you take this vacation?
How quickly can we finish our meeting?
In how many different ways are you going to enjoy this house?
Why Affirmations Don't Work And How You Can Replace Them With Directed
Questions(tm) To Get The Results You Want
Rex Steven Sikes
Plus, I personally prefer to work with people who are wanting to improve their lives rather than fix their lives - just a personal preference.
Carolyn Sikes
Anything worth doing well is worth doing poorly at first.
Rex Steven Sikes
What I additionally do is ask myself positive productive questions which lead
my mind in the direction I want it to go in. For example, I ask myself questions
like 'Just how surprised and delighted I will be to discover myself having a
marvelous time? In how many different ways can I discover myself delighted and
excited at having the opportunity to perform? How much fun can I stand and in
how many ways will I find myself enthused? How easily can I discover my sense of
humor (or whatever) and how much I love performing? In how many different ways
can I excite and entertain the audience, and have them have fun and enjoyment?
In how many different ways can I feel and express my enthusiasm for
entertaining? How quickly will I discover an ever increasing sense of confidence
arising in me to the point where I feel totally incredible about this wonderful
opportunity to amaze and delight strangers? How many new friends can I make as a
result of this opportunity?' These are just a few brief sample questions you can
ask yourself - or develop your own.
I use questions like these questions to fill my mind. You see when you ask a
question your mind goes in search of an answer.
First Performance Jitters
by Rex and Carolyn Sikes
Practice what you preach!
You can light a million candles off just one.
Your mind is like a tree that grows -- it is not like a jar to be filled.
Harvard University's Dr. Becher research pain and placebo. He found morphine worked in 52% of the cases and the placebo worked in 40% of the cases. Thus the placebo was 75% as effective as morphine.
Happiness is a left brain function. When you feel good and think positively, it is a left brain function. (Maybe this is why many people who have over-developed right brains like artists and creative people are often prone to depression.) Yale researchers, in 1987 (reported by McGuire), demonstrate that when the subject was feeling optimistic about life, the PET scans of the left hemisphere showed the most activity. The right side of the brain "lit up" when the subjects felt depressed, negative or stressed.
Maguire, J. Care and Feeding of the Brain. New York: Doubleday, 1990
Statistics tell us that 95% of what we learn in college is forgotten within 6 months of graduation! Only 5% is all that is retained of what you spent more than 4 years studying.
One idea can change the entire world. We need a better class of thinkers and
innovators - juicier people with explosive curiosity and creativity. Fun loving
people who can change the world. Seriousness is truly a disease. We need giggles
and shudders and risk takers. As Oliver Wendall Holmes said "A mind
stretched to a new idea can never go back to its original dimension." Love
learning - learn for no reason at all except the sheer joy of it. Love seeking.
How to Learn More in Less Time...
And Have Fun Doing It!
A transcript from a live seminar with Rex Steven Sikes
Edited by Carolyn Sikes
Think about it - two people go to the same movie and one loves it another
hates it. Are they really talking about the movie? No. They are sharing with you
what they paid attention to. They are letting you know how their mind works.
How to Learn More in Less Time...
And Have Fun Doing It!
A transcript from a live seminar with Rex Steven Sikes
Edited by Carolyn Sikes
Do you realize that by current estimates if you read one hour a day in your field that within three years you would be a top expert in your field, within five a top expert in the country and within ten the world.
Recapture the Joy of Learning
by Rex Steven Sikes
The developers found that by changing the Submodalities without even knowing the content, people could have instant relief from bad feelings. For example, try criticizing yourself in a sensual, inviting tone of voice, or a Mickey Mouse tone. It's pretty difficult to feel bad when you have Mickey Mouse talking to you.
The Representational Systems
by Rex and Carolyn Sikes
Beware of trainers that claim they will INSTALL everything into your head and you won't have to do anything. If that were possible, then you would be able to learn how to drive a car by attending a seminar where the trainer hypnotizes you and then you walk out with the ability to drive. I wouldn't get into that car, would you?
How To Research NLP Training
by Carolyn Sikes
Develop main character within a similar environment to the child
Establish the problem in relation to the main character
Develop obstacles and villans to represent the child's fears and negative
beliefs, and develop heros or helpers to represent the child's strengths and
resources.
Provide learning experiences where the main character expands on their
resources.
Show how main character uses their resources to overcome the crisis.
Expand on the feeling of empowerment the character has when the obstacles are
overcome.
Celebrate the character's increased sense of self worth as a result of the
successful compleation of the story.
The Use of Guided Imagery
in the Classroom
How to talk to your students' Unconscious Mind
by: John Tozeland
"Where you are, the other is not!"
Jayakar, 1986
...those patients who need help the most are least likely to be able to relax to enter trance easily.
Milton Erickson
Jonathan
Here's an example of a recursive pattern. I was thinking back to a pattern
that used to happen. The problem I'm thinking of was that every time I'd think
about a conversation I had that didn't go well, I'd end up feeling bad about it,
back then, and then saying something in my head in awful tonality... And then, I
told someone about it. And that conversation didn't go well. So I thought back
on the conversation that didn't go well, and I felt bad back then about it and
had to say critical things in bad tonality to myself about how I felt bad about
prior conversations and then said things in bad tonality about it. Sheesh. STOP!
No more! OOOOOOOoooooh AAaaaaaaaaahhhh... better tonality, clean the palate! Go
into neutral & then into better, & better! So I went recursive in that
example, and it took a bit of a pattern interrupt to break out of it. And go
meta.
IRC Chat Log, March 14, 1999
Mezmer
Now...Imagine that you are that person's father or mather and that you care
for them dearly, and, next time you talk to them, notice how they respond
differently to you while you maintain that state! You notice that by changing
one's state mentally, your body changes including you facial muscles which
include over 5000 nonverbal-messages. So why do it the hard way! Change your
state and go forth! So by congruently taking on that persona you have adopted
that state, so your non-verbals will match up as well!
IRC Chat Log, March 14, 1999
Years ago, conservative TV talk show host Joe Pyne, who had a wooden leg, had Frank Zappa as a guest. He began by saying, "So I guess your long hair makes you a woman." Without missing a beat, Frank replied, "So I guess your wooden leg makes you a table," and Joe Pyne looked stunned.
"It's Just Not Fair!"
by Steve Andreas
The mechanics of your fear-cycle
Remember you are studying the 'mechanics' of your fear. You are examining how
and not why you do it.
Reg Connolly
Please don't ask me what the score is, I'm not even sure what the game is.
Ashleigh Brilliant
Once in a while, we would enter a residence and be greeted by someone standing in a fighting position and shouting, "You two think you can take me? Come on!" We would mirror his stance, but not make the fists. Our response would be, "No way. We heard how tough you are."
Flex Cop
by Michael Gardner
The thing that comes to mind is number one, that the basic form of change in NLP is that you bring a resource into some problem space.
Robert Dilts
Greek philosophers first turned their attention to linear thought in the 5th Century B.C. Since then, it has been almost universally accepted that everything that has a beginning must be caused by something else. The Scottish philosopher David Hume disagreed with the early Greeks. Hume held the idea that the causal relationship between two events occurring in sequence is nothing more than a habit of mind. In 1739, he wrote A Treatise of Human Nature which is an analytical rejection of the commonly established ideas of causation. Hume rejected the idea that everything that has a beginning must be caused by something else.
The Systemic Nature of the Mind and Body
and How it Relates to Health
by Kris Hallbom
How frail the wand, but how profound the spell!
Clarence R. Wylie Jr.
People have many different beliefs about money. Some of the more common ones
are:
-You need money to make money.
-I don't have enough money to plan with.
-It's too late in my life, I don't know what to do.
-If I invest, the market will go down for sure.
-Finances are too complicated.
THE PSYCHOLOGY OF MONEY, PROSPERITY AND ABUNDANCE
by Kris Hallbom and Armand D'Alo
"What is possible?"
Instead of focusing on what is possible, many people spend a lot of time
thinking about what they don't have.
THE PSYCHOLOGY OF MONEY, PROSPERITY AND ABUNDANCE
by Kris Hallbom and Armand D'Alo
For many years people have been saying that we only use 10% of our brains. We don't know how they came up with that figure, but probably the intent was to convince people that they were capable of much more than they had previously believed. It can be useful to note that using 100% of our brain is not particularly useful-that is what happens during an epileptic seizure or electroshock treatment. The problem is not that we are using only 10%, but that we are sometimes using the wrong 10%. When doing a particular task well, we may well be using considerably less than 1% of our brain, but it is the appropriate 1%. What we accomplish when we successfully anchor a resource is to find the exact missing neurology that is needed for a particular outcome.
Selecting a Resource to Anchor
by Steve and Connirae Andreas
There is an old joke that neurotics build castles in the air, psychotics live in them, and psychiatrists collect the rent. The task of NLP is to build stairways, or transitions, so that people can actually reach their desired outcomes easily (without becoming psychotic, and without paying rent to psychiatrists!).
Selecting a Resource to Anchor
by Steve and Connirae Andreas
Once you ask the right question, the answer is usually obvious.
Selecting a Resource to Anchor
by Steve and Connirae Andreas
Imagine what your life would be like if you began every sentence, and every thought, with the word "sadly" or "regrettably." That is a very effective way to be depressed, and some people actually do this! In contrast, imagine what your life would be like if every sentence and thought were preceded by the word "happily" or "fortunately." This would be a much better choice, and again, some people actually do this.
What makes a good NLPer?
by Steve Andreas
Interestingly, there is a set of cognitive/emotional states that are quite
different, and that do not have negative or unpleasant aspects. Curiously, they
all center around a state of interest, curiosity, attention, or understanding:
"interestingly," "curiously," "surprisingly,"
"understandably," etc. Something unpleasant can be just as interesting
as something pleasant-the state of interest or fascination itself is always
positive and enjoyable. You probably never heard anyone complain about being
curious. "Oh I had this awful curiosity last night-it was terrible!"
Since these cognitive qualifiers miraculously never have negative states
associated with them, they are truly universal resources, which can be used with
any experience. And since a state of curiosity or interest is an excellent
resource state for learning and change, this kind of cognitive qualifier is a
wonderful state to use in beginning to understand and process a difficulty.
What makes a good NLPer?
by Steve Andreas
When someone thinks of a "problem" they usually will have a still picture as a representation of it. Simply asking them to allow that still image to become a movie of the event can be a profound intervention, because this will recover the complete sequence of which the "problem" is only a small part. The movie will have far more information than the still picture, and often this information will be very useful in reaching a resolution. And since the moving image is already moving and changing, it is much easier to introduce additional useful changes than if it were a fixed still image.
What makes a good NLPer?
by Steve Andreas
However, if the resource state precedes the difficult situation, the person will not even experience it as a problem. In fact, this is what most of us experience thousands of times a day, without even noticing it. Every day we are faced with a myriad of tasks, from reaching into a pocket or purse for car keys to speaking with someone on the telephone or reading an article such as this. As long as we have robust behavioral resources to deal with these situations, we don't think of them as problems.
What makes a good NLPer?
by Steve Andreas
The fact that we are writing this article in no way suggests that we believe that such a thing as Schizophrenia exists; only that if it did exist, it could be changed. The fact that we wrote that last sentence in no way suggests that we suffer from the disorder we are discussing, only that if we did, we'd have a different way of thinking about it.
Towards a Sane View of Insanity:
NLP and the Treatment of Schizophrenia
by Dr. Richard Bolstad and Margot Hamblett
Schizophrenia is associated with difficulty "chunking down" in NLP terms (Perris, 1989, p. 43, pp. 148-151, p. 157 and Arieti, 1948).
Having a conversation with someone diagnosed schizophrenic can be like immersing oneself in a festival of Milton model patterns: mind reads, layered presuppositions, lost performatives, deletions, nominalisations etc.
Towards a Sane View of Insanity:
NLP and the Treatment of Schizophrenia
by Dr. Richard Bolstad and Margot Hamblett
What did you do in order to make that decision. Now if you unpackage your process you will discover that there was probably a visual, auditory and kinesthetic component in your strategy.
LET ME LOOK INTO YOUR EYES: Eye-Acessing Cues
By Rachel Hott
...your brain does not know the difference between imagination and reality, between past recalled images and present experiences.
Bobby G. Bodenhamer, D.Min.
(Taken from the developing Training Manual "How to Defeat Fear in Your
Life")
The emotion of stress operates in a very special way neurologically. We cue
it in one of two central ways.
1) Whenever we send any cognitive message to our cortex of
"Danger!"
2) Whenever we send any message of "Enough! Overload!"
Either of these two message cues the Cortex to signal the thalamus to
activate the Fight/Flight Syndrome. When that happens, The General Arousal
Syndrome occurs neurologically: blood is withdrawn from the brain and stomach
and sent to the larger muscle groups, adrenalin is released into the blood,
heart and lungs beat faster, eyes dilate, skin sweats, fats, cholesterol and
sugar in your blood stream increase, stomach secretes more acid, immune system
slows down, thinking shifts to a more black-and-white, survivalistic mode. We
then start sorting for one thing:
Should I Fight or Flee/ Freeze?
Should I Attack or Run?
By Meta-Stating Work "Stress"
L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.
Debra Lederer
You know the scenario. You're in the living room or kitchen and having a
fight with a loved one. You're saying things that you'd never say to a stranger.
You save those kinds of things for the people that you love most. It's your way
of testing to see if they can keep on loving you! So you really get into state.
You raise your voice. You feel really, really angry, upset, frustrated ...
and then the phone rings.
You take a breath, and then politely answer it. "Hello..."
Your "telephone voice!" See, you can fly into a calm!
By Meta-Stating Work "Stress"
L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.
Debra Lederer
For instance, why not add a big dose of healthy humor to the mix?
By Meta-Stating Work "Stress"
L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.
Debra Lederer
"The chunk of nature, the specially shaped accumulation of materials., which we call a pencil, 'is' fundamentally and absolutely un-speakable, simply because whatever we may say about it, is not it. ... so the object is not words. ... the object was absolutely un-speakable, because no amount of words will make the object."
Alfred Korzybski
Most of us (if not all of us) have been deeply contaminated, indoctrinated,
programmed, and affected by the Scarcity Model.
The Structure of Synergy Applied to the NLP Community
L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.
Whatever Happened to 'Abundance'?
Did the Scarcity Meme Gobble it Up?
1) There's not enough for all.
2) There's a limited amount of the pie
3) I need to show my superiority over others.
4) Get what you can when you can.
5) Nice guys finish last.
6) Let's work as a team and we'll generate more for all.
The Structure of Synergy Applied to the NLP Community
L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.
Whatever Happened to 'Abundance'?
Did the Scarcity Meme Gobble it Up?
And as you drift back to sleep... what do you daydream about?
Jonathan Altfeld